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What Really Happens in Your First EFT Couples Session
What Really Happens in Your First EFT Couples Session — A Vancouver Therapist Explains
January 12, 2026
What Really Happens in Your First EFT Couples Session — A Vancouver Therapist Explains
Doing death when you’ve never done death.
There’s no substitute for some trial by fire in our lives. The surfer needs bigger and bigger waves to continue their growth, and we need challenges in our inner lives and relational lives. The skills we use in these moments can completely change our sense of self, our confidence and mastery.
De-escalation is really context specific, but there are definitely some general skills that we can talk about. But it’s worth remembering that de-escalating a bar fight, a work conflict, and a kitchen argument with your partner are all going to be a little different. Let’s talk about withdrawal, de-escalation, and letting go.
Aggression looks like anger, but it is a mode of dominance and coercion, a show of strength designed to compel behaviour through fear. Aggression can be deliberate, but it is more often, in my experience, an unskillful expression of frustration, or helplessness, or anger.
Healthy conflict has a few essential elements, but it’s worth saying at the outset that you can’t simply do these things just because you’ve heard about them
Conflicts are make or break moments a lot of the time (but not all the time!). In these essential frictions we have the opportunity to either leave them stagnating into perpetuity, polluting the relationship in all kinds of ways, or we can use the galvanizing effect of being irritated and frustrated and hurt to actually construct with each other new ways of being together, new ways of relating.
Imposter syndrome will plague most of us at some point in our lives or another. It often accompanies change, when we’ve moved up in the world in some fashion and start to feel a looming, background sense of anxiety or worry that we don’t belong. Let’s explore what imposter syndrome is and how we can deal with it in counselling therapy or on your own.
Whether it’s just another Hallmark Holiday to you, or if it’s as good an excuse as any to open a nice bottle and slip into something a little less comfortable, Valentine’s Day has us thinking about love and romance. Here are three pieces of relationship advice that depart from the norm a little. I hope they help you and your sweetheart get a little cozier this winter.
The overall health of me is improved by the overall health of us.
Boundary setting is one of the most popular topics in counselling therapy today. Posts about boundaries on our social media get more engagement as the algorithms get to work on some hot content. But I’ve noticed that in the topics that are more viral, the quality of the nuance and sophistication drops by equal measure. Because of this, boundary setting has a pretty poor reflection in the PopPsych of our times.
ADHD is a neurobiological divergence which is present from birth, and that the subjective lived experience of ADHD symptoms is a derivative of this. We’ll return to this shortly, but first let’s have a look at the second competing explanation for the rise of ADHD.