The art of arguing, part I: what are the common misconceptions or negative perceptions surrounding arguments and conflict?

Conflict

Conflicts are make or break moments a lot of the time (but not all the time!). In these essential frictions we have the opportunity to either leave them stagnating into perpetuity, polluting the relationship in all kinds of ways, or we can use the galvanizing effect of being irritated and frustrated and hurt to actually construct with each other new ways of being together, new ways of relating.

Imposter syndrome

Imposter

Imposter syndrome will plague most of us at some point in our lives or another. It often accompanies change, when we’ve moved up in the world in some fashion and start to feel a looming, background sense of anxiety or worry that we don’t belong. Let’s explore what imposter syndrome is and how we can deal with it in counselling therapy or on your own.

Congratulations Carolina Radovan!

EMDR Badge

Please join me, Shane, and the rest of the Nightingale staff as we congratulate Senior Clinician, Carolina Radovan. After two years of hard study and practice, she has been granted membership to the EMDR International Association.

Relationship advice on the eve of Valentine’s Day

Valentine's Day

Whether it’s just another Hallmark Holiday to you, or if it’s as good an excuse as any to open a nice bottle and slip into something a little less comfortable, Valentine’s Day has us thinking about love and romance. Here are three pieces of relationship advice that depart from the norm a little. I hope they help you and your sweetheart get a little cozier this winter.

Essential reading—Laziness Does not Exist by Devon Price

Scolding

All of us with neurological and metabolic differences need to hear the title of this book ring in our ears, because to use the language of laziness against others or ourselves is to do a kind of judgmental violence that is neither accurate nor effective.

On self-love

Anticipation

We live in the present of our predicted futures.

Are feelings facts?

Soup

Here, a feeling is, in actuality, a fact. Let me make a stronger claim: all feelings are facts. They are facts in the same way that the table I am sitting at currently is made of wood and that I am a psychotherapist. All are part of the same category of thing we call facts.